The heart is a child
“Baba, my friends were
saying that little kids died in ‘Conticut’!”
Noori, the 1st grader, was quite charged when she related that to
me. I, as usual, was oblivious to that factoid although I work in mainstream
America. I mostly work night shifts so when I picked Noori up from school it
was technically bedtime for me. Some blame could be laid on the 3rd
flu-like illness I was suffering through in a 5 week period. Being an ER doc in
a busy children’s hospital, the frequent colds were the necessary evil I was
exposed to. I had loaded myself up on multiple medications to control my
symptoms partly in an attempt to survive that night‘s shift in the ER.
The 1st
query that arose in the dazed and drugged mind of mine was: “Noori, what or
where is Conticut?” The massacre of the children took a back seat for the
moment.
“I don’t know! But
there were lots of guns and blood – Ella said so”. Ella was Noori’s equally
excitable and worldly friend.
It was then that my
mind gained some clarity. She was not fibbing. Something serious had happened
and it was worth investigating. The last time Noori had given me an update
about dying and death had also been ‘for real’. Then she was a kindergartner
and she had relayed to me that baby Avery, the child with the bucket list, had
died. Avery was well known to her and
the rest of her kindergarten gang as the baby’s mother happened to be their
class teacher.
It wasn’t hard to feign
ignorance, so after distracting Noori from her somewhat morbid fascination with
gore we started our trek home. It was then that I received a phone call from my
work place. The first dreaded thought that crossed my mind was that it was the
ER calling me for back up duty. It wasn’t. It was Ayesha, my wife, calling from
the child psychiatry clinic at the same hospital. The joy of sharing one’s
workplace with one’s spouse is a story for another day. Ayesha, somewhat
frantic, gave me an update about what had happened that morning in Connecticut.
That explained Noori’s description of the events. I told Ayesha that I had
already been updated by a 6-year-old about the nation’s most recent episode of inexplicably
senseless violence. She was not all that enthused that Noori had been the
messenger. Ayesha was saddened, as was I, about the violence against innocent
elementary school children. She had been contacted by a local radio station to
issue a statement about how parents could address anxiety in their own kids
stemming from the abominable act on the East Coast.
After Ayesha hung up, I
looked at Noori who was lost in her own world while walking home,
intermittently stopping to pick wild flowers from the sidewalk. I thought about
what had happened. Kids in a primary school of Connecticut being gunned down
might have been an anomalous, random event. However, when kids in 1st
grade in Houston, far away from the site of the massacre, heard about it, the
fear of something similar happening in their own school would be palpable.
I didn’t think it was
lack of gun control at the root of it. Nor did I think that a putative increase
in psychiatric illness in teenagers, adolescents and young adults could
adequately explain it. I thought that societal fabric was tenuous the world
over. So called educated and enlightened societies like the U.S. were
struggling with random acts of violence as were presumably uneducated and
unenlightened societies in the 3rd world. However, these debates
matter little when several kids in an elementary school in an affluent
neighborhood of the U.S. are gunned down, or when a single child is gunned down
for her advocacy work for education in a rugged poor locality in northern
Pakistan. In either case, humanity, irrespective of enlightenment, has failed
miserably.
As I was struggling with
the loss of innocence in mind of the precious child, I heard Noori humming the
lyrics of a Bollywood song as she skipped around, ‘Dil to bacha hai ji – the heart is a child…’ But it was the
following line that connected with me even more ‘Thora kacha hai ji – it’s a bit naïve..’
I was brought back to
‘reality’ by another child - my own. A reminder to protect her innocence and to
cherish the precious time I had been given to be with her.
[from the Kindergarten Diaries]
Acknowledgment: This article was first published in the Houston Inner Looper Newspaper (January 2013).
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